“I never had doubt in us, and I never had doubt in Andrew, but I always doubt myself because I am a perfectionist and I want to succeed,” she explained. “And I want to be the best at what I do. And so, my brain and my doubt goes to, ‘Am I suited to do this? Am I the best mom for my children? Am I the best wife for my husband?’”
The answer to all were an unequivocal yes, stressed her partner of more than a decade. But, said Andrew, “I realized at some point I was literally completely out of my depth and I need, we needed professional perspective on this.”
Years removed from that struggle, they still get a boost from the experts. Despite enjoying the sessions they attended ahead of their April 2016 vows, “We started learning that we had this tendency to only go to counseling or therapy when it got bad. And we’ve now started just setting goals of doing it proactively for maintenance.”
When speaking about their struggles, “You’re putting it out on the table in a way that allows you to be this third party audience to it,” explained Andrew. “And then it makes it feel way less personal.”
That’s why they count regular therapy as one of their winning marital strategies. Relive their journey to the top of the proverbial podium.